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Adult Children of Narcissists

Adult Children of Narcissists (ACON’s) sometime fear that narcissism breeds narcissism. While this may hold true in a minority of cases, it is not always what happens, especially when a child grows to realize that the family he or she was brought up in is not the norm. You may realize and that your childhood experiences are not something you […]

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Narcissistic Parents

Narcissistic parents cause “carried shame” in their children. Carried shame is different than “healthy shame.”  The important difference between the two in this case is carried shame originates from the narcissistic parent and is not your own, therefore not easily processed. Healthy shame, on the other hand, is from ourselves. It is not from a […]

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Maternal Narcissism

Maternal narcissism results in you, as a child, growing up with a woman who is a mother in name only. When my coaching and psychotherapy clients see the pattern of narcissism in how they were “parented” they say something similar to the recent comment on our blog, “Until today I always thought it was something […]

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Hero Child Narcissism and Narcissistic Mother

A narcissistic mother encourages hero child narcissism when it’s to her benefit. From a narcissistic parent’s point of view, the golden or hero child’s purpose is to keep the family intact and make everything look good on the outside. It’s his or her job to bring esteem and pride to the narcissistic parent. They often […]

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Narcissistic Mother-in-Law

What if you realize you have a narcissistic mother-in-law? For your spouse, the child of the narcissist, dealing with the parental narcissist can be more taxing and harder than dealing with anyone else. But what happens when you marry into having a narcissistic relative? How are you supposed to deal with a narcissistic mother-in-law? You’re […]

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