When Someone “Gets It” Regarding Your Narcissistic Mother

Why is it such a relief when someone else “gets” how crazy our childhood was with a maternal narcissist? Because, as children, we were terrified and alone at a vulnerable time. Before we’re 18, our brains were still developing, our perceptions of self and the world were greatly affected by others, especially our narcissistic mother. […]

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Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

The road is long and winding for the daughter of a narcissistic mother. Many twists and turns along the way, with no light guiding her. She may feel lost, not knowing which direction she should turn due to lack of guidance and without the proper care and nurturing for her to be able to find […]

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Don’t Self Attack for Feelings About Your Narcissistic Mother

‘It is awful and sad… I am 40… When will I stop being hurt and crying about my mother???’ A recent comment on the blog. As a psychotherapist in my 40’s, I feel it in my bones when someone says on the blog or in my coaching practice, “I’m X years old and I’m still […]

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Narcissistic Parents

Narcissistic parents cause “carried shame” in their children. Carried shame is different than “healthy shame.”  The important difference between the two in this case is carried shame originates from the narcissistic parent and is not your own, therefore not easily processed. Healthy shame, on the other hand, is from ourselves. It is not from a […]

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Narcissistic Mothers

Let’s talk about narcissistic mothers and the silent treatment. This mom and the narcissistic mother-in-law share many forms of emotionally abusive ammo in their arsenals. One way these narcissists seek to gain power and control over you is to give you the silent treatment when you do not respond to her in the ways she […]

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