narcissistic mother

Narcissistic Parents

Narcissistic parents cause “carried shame” in their children. Carried shame is different than “healthy shame.”  The important difference between the two in this case is carried shame originates from the narcissistic parent and is not your own, therefore not easily processed. Healthy shame, on the other hand, is from ourselves. It is not from a […]

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Narcissistic Mothers

Let’s talk about narcissistic mothers and the silent treatment. This mom and the narcissistic mother-in-law share many forms of emotionally abusive ammo in their arsenals. One way these narcissists seek to gain power and control over you is to give you the silent treatment when you do not respond to her in the ways she […]

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Maternal Narcissism

Maternal narcissism results in you, as a child, growing up with a woman who is a mother in name only. When my coaching and psychotherapy clients see the pattern of narcissism in how they were “parented” they say something similar to the recent comment on our blog, “Until today I always thought it was something […]

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Narcissistic Mothers & Mixed Feelings on Mother’s Day

Mixed feelings on Mother’s Day are common when you’ve had a narcissistic mother. Even the most malignant narcissist can appear supportive or loving when it suits his or her needs. As a child, you were likely to soak up that elusive supportive energy, believing it to be the much needed love you craved. Unfortunately, “love” […]

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Help, My Narcissistic Mother-in-Law Hates Me!

Help, my narcissistic mother-in-law hates me, is one request sent often to this blog. There’s the age old cliche that’s used as a break-up line, “It’s not you, it’s me.” Well, when it comes to narcissistic mother-in-laws, it holds true as well. It’s not you. Really. It’s her 110%. Of course, she’ll never admit she’s […]

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