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Narcissistic Mothers and Scapegoat

When you’re in the role of the scapegoat in a narcissistic family system, growing up to feel “normal” can be a stretch. After years of torment, the scapegoat is accustomed to being blamed for every little thing which went wrong in the family. It’s hard to feel a real sense of self and belonging after […]

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Hypochondriac Narcissistic Mother Survivor Story

A reader shares her thoughts about her elderly narcissistic mother and hopes others can join in the conversation: I am the youngest of four children. My parents were married 61 years, and devout Catholics. Outwardly, we probably appeared to be a wholesome family. In reality, the dysfunction was severe, and centered around my mother, who […]

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Narcissistic Mother Survivor Story

A male reader shares his experience of his narcissistic adoptive mother in: THE PROMISED FAMILY THAT NEVER WAS Names in this story have been occluded in order to avoid legal hassles down the road for everyone involved. A little about me.  First of all, I’m male.  There is a lot of information and documentation about […]

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Narcissistic Mother, Lost Child, Scapegoat & Golden Child

Two broad categories of narcissistic mothers are the engulfing narcissistic mother and the ignoring narcissistic mother. When you are engulfed, you are often put in the golden child role or the scapegoated role.  When you are ignored you may be in the lost child role or, again, the scapegoated role.  Sometimes, the narcissistic mom will […]

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How Narcissistic Mothers Create Sibling Rivalry

Sibling relationships are often a casualty of the narcissistic mother. In fact, narcissistic mothers both consciously and subconsciously create sibling rivalry. Due to the limited resources of affection, attention and favor from the narcissistic mom, siblings have to vie for their rations. Because narcissistic mothers are incredibly self-centered, they have precious little time and effort […]

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