Top Books to Deal with a Narcissistic Mother & Others

by Michelle Piper

Here’s a list of great books to read on narcissism and narcissistic mothers. Each one has a different perspective on the topic of narcissism and can help you in your quest to overcome your narcissistic mother.

  1. Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up’s Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parent by Nina W. Brown

If you had a narcissistic mother, you grew up with an immature, self-absorbed parent who made you feel responsible for her physical and emotional well-being. Nina Brown describes how to respond to this process of destructive parenting with a series of self-exploration exercises to help you gain healthy self-esteem and protective coping strategies.

  1. Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin, PhD

This book teaches how to cope, survive, and protect yourself and loved ones from narcissists. It offers a detailed first-hand account of what it’s like to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder with 100 frequently asked questions on this disorder regarding relationships and abusive narcissists.

  1. The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Professional, Reassuring Advice for Coping with the Disorder-at Work, at Home, and in Your Family by Cynthia Lechan Goodman & Barbara Leff

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a severe psychological condition which can ruin relationships, work environments, and one’s own sense of self. This book identifies the symptoms of NPD, defines different types of narcissists, relationships, and outlines treatment options.  Prevention of NPD in children and young adults is explored. Tips for recovering from a narcissistic relationship are discussed.

  1. Why is it Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss

This author shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of giving and sustaining healthy relationships. You will learn to recognize unhealthy narcissism and understand the roles that parenting and culture play in its creation.

  1. The Culture of Narcissism: American Life in an Age of Diminishing Expectations by Christopher Lasch

Lasch explores how pathological narcissism is normalized in 20th century American culture. It locates the symptoms of this personality disorder and the political and spiritual movements that arose because of it throughout history.

  1. Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life by Linda Martinez-Lewi

The psychological profiles of famous narcissists are analyzed to empower you to recognize, cope, and overcome the destructive behavior of narcissists. The book presents an in-depth and supportive plan to understand and deal with narcissistic behavior in those close to you.

    8. The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman

This work presents an innovative therapeutic model for treating adults from narcissistic families. Clinical examples are used to illuminate the guidelines for aiding these individuals.

    9. The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor Payson

Payson guides people to reclaim their lives from narcissists-in-power embedded today’s society. It illustrates the illusions and challenges that occur when a person encounters a narcissist and gives a step-by-step approach to the practical tools needed to identify, protect, and heal from these destructive relationships.

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Dana June 16, 2013 at 5:02 am

A great book is “When will I be good enough” by Dr. Karley McBride…Healing the daughters of narississtic mothers..


Anonymous August 19, 2015 at 12:36 pm

This book kept what little sanity I had left in me.


bluesandfish December 21, 2016 at 12:15 pm

Yes, I agree. I just found this book too and am working on recovery. I am almost 60 and just now figuring out what the heck is wrong with my family. I feel more than a little foolish to have not figured this out long ago.


Anonymous January 9, 2017 at 2:50 pm

bluesandfish. it took me until almost 60 too. its not that we’re foolish. we don’t have this information readily available, its not common knowledge. even my sibling doesn’t want to face this.


Anonymous November 22, 2016 at 7:29 am

Another book is: You’re not Crazy, it’s your mother.


Brent December 7, 2016 at 2:33 pm

Divorce finalized 2 years ago and now daughter is opening up about mom’s emotional abuse and I am trying to find a book or reference help for helping her learn about mom, in order for her to handle her in private without me present. Please email me with any suggestions that I can review. Thanks, Brent


Sarah June 15, 2017 at 9:42 am

Mother’s Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward and Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karley McBride….both powerful, excellent books, but definitely make sure your daughter has a good support system in place as she begins this journey – it will be extremely emotional. I recommend having a supportive counselor for her as well.


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